It is really shocking when you learn that your friend or near one has decided to commit suicide. If you are encountering such situation then how can you prevent him or her to take such drastic action? At this moment a few things that you choose to tell him is very important. It can either drive him to take extreme step or it will make him reconsider his decision.
Following are few statements that you should not tell a person who is bent upon committing suicide.
“Your life is not that bad then why are you thinking of committing suicide?”
Most of us may not be aware about the real situation that a person is facing in his life. Apparently it may appear to be very good life, but the pain that exits in his life are never shared with anyone. The above statement will rather convey a feeling of disbelief.
“I will be devastated if you die, do you know that? How can you hurt me this way?”
The person who has decided to commit suicide is already feeling very bad and now the above statement will further add to his guilt rather he needs some soothing words.
“You are too selfish, only thinking about you”
If you read any books on suicide then you will learn that most of the people going, who have decided to commit suicide, think that they are making sacrifice for others. By staying alive they will be burden to the society. Now if you term his act as selfish then you are further increasing his/her pain.
“It is a cowardly act”
As a matter of fact most people are afraid of death and if you term his decision as a cowardly act then you are embarrassing him.
- “There are many who are in much more worse condition than you but they are not dying”
It may be true and the person might have thought about that too, but your statement may worsen the situation.
“There are so many things for you to live for”
May be you are trying to raise some hope in the mind of that person, who thinks nothing is left for him, but your statement cannot break the ice.
If you have utter such things then the best thing to do is ask for apology and say the most important word “How can I help you”.